A few days ago, I was on my coach doing some work and my oldest son Everett, who is 21, came in to make his daily appearance.  Since my husband was traveling and my younger son lives at school, it was just the two of us and we got to chatting.  It was one of those rare moments that I didn’t want to end.  We talked about things like the economy, politics, family and of course the antics of a 21 year old.  This weekend I am in Maine with my youngest son Samuel, who is 18, for a hockey tournament.  Last night neither of us could sleep and we stayed up too late (Sorry coach!) chatting about all sorts of of topics from God and spirituality and what we think happens to our souls to the psychology of how some people think, to his future.  As I fell asleep last night, I could not help but soak in the feeling of bliss knowing how my children are becoming mature, authentic adults who are learning who they are.  It is something you can only go through once and I love that I have these peeks here and there to be part of their journeys with them.

I used to worry a lot about losing things that were important to me.  Everything from money to relationships.  It was especially strong around the relationships with my boys.  I always wanted to keep them young and cute and wanting to be with me.  I was afraid that as they grew up they would not need me and for some reason I worried that would interfere with my relationship with them.  Thankfully I was completely wrong.  My relationship with each of them is blossoming into a new level of maturity which is really exciting.  I love that I can have conversations with them around topics that interest each of us and respect each other’s views and even contemplate them.  I love that a bond with a child keeps growing deeper and stronger as the years go by.  When they were little I couldn’t imagine it getting better, and we all know there were few years when each of them were early teens that I wondered if they even knew who I was! But the more I realized that worrying was not going to change any outcomes, the more I let go (very slooooooowly) of the story that I needed to worry, the more I realized I had no reason to worry.  It is still an ongoing process but without the tools I have now I would still be a complete frazzled wreck every time my boys were not with me.  

The conversations this week came at a point in which I really needed to connect with people I love.  I have been working a lot the last few weeks and not taking my own advice to incorporate relaxation and other primary food, such as relationships, into my life.  So in fact, the night after my conversation with Everett, I refrained from opening up my computer and instead poured a tall glass of ice water and lemon then grabbed a new book by Maya Angelo and filled the tub...it was heaven.

Many of us have cravings, depression, anxiety, sugar addictions or other issues that we disguise by eating and drinking.  But we are satisfying a physical, emotional or spiritual desire with the wrong things because we don’t realize that is what’s going on.  We are upset about a conversation we had with our mother so we reach for cookies or we had a bad day at work and we grab a beer or wine.  Although these foods and beverages may make us feel a little better for the moment, it doesn’t eliminate what is really going on which is we are either too stressed to deal with our mother because we have been working too hard or we are really unhappy in our job but think it will be too much work to start over in a new one.  And so the wheel keeps turning and we stay on for the ride.

There are 4 steps to action you can take right now to add more Primary Food into your life...

• Write down 2-3 things that you enjoy but haven’t done in a while.  It could be anything but here are some examples:
• taking a bath, reading, walking, going to yoga, painting, knitting, dinner with friends
• Take one of those primary foods and then go to your calendar.  Mark down the exact day and time that you are going to it within the next week.
• Explain to people around you, friends, family etc., that this is very important to you and you would appreciate support in not interrupting this time.  Remind them - and yourself, how happy you will feel afterwards.  Stick to it.  Avoid the urge of moving, canceling or otherwise cheating yourself out of this rewarding experience.  
• As soon as you have finished with this experience, write down how you feel.  Immediately schedule the next time for yourself, within a week.  Repeat weekly. 

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Tracey E. LeBeau

Certified Holistic Health Coach

www.inpureharmony.com

tracey@inpureharmony.com